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Having A Thankful Habit

The Merriam -Webster dictionary defined being thankful as one being conscious of benefits recieved. It also means one being happy for what one is about to recieve. It also defined it as being glad that something has happened or not happened49292-Being-Thankfulor that something or someone exist. You see I belong to a ministry called SISTERS’ FELLOWSHIP iNTERNATIONAL. This write up is not about the ministry noooo! But I can’t write on being thankful without mentioning SISTERS. This is an all women fellowship. The ministry taught me how to appreciate God and my fellow man. You see because the ministry is foundationed on love and appreciation we have different times within the year set aside for thanksgiving, these are January, June and December. We have been taught how to be appreciative even in bad times.There’s need for our lives to be one of thanksgiving, When I went online to research for this topic I was led  to a site  that showed me about seventy six quotations in the bible all talking about thanksgiving. Lets look at some of them.

  • 1 Thessalonian 5v18

Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

  • Psalm 107 v1

Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good, for His steadfast love endures for ever.

  • Ephesians 5 v 20

Giving thanks always and for everything to God the father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ

  • Colossians 3 v 15 -17

And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which i deed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and ministering one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus giving thanks to God the Father through Him.

  • Psalm 105 v1 – 2

Oh give thanks to the Lord! Call upon His name. Make known His deeds among the peoples! Sing to Him, sing psalms to Him. Talk of all His wondrous works!

  • Psalm 106 v 1

Praise the Lord! Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever

  • Psalm 95 v 2 – 3

Oh come let us sing to the Lord! Let us shout joyfully to the Rock of our salvation. Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving.Let us shout joyfully to Him with psalms.

All these just show that we are constantly suppossed to live in an atmosphere of thanksgiving. Ungratefulness is one of the world’s worst sins. We enjoy the blessings of life, home, friends, health and freedom of so many things and we take all those things for granted. Saying thank you Lord is usually an after thought. This lack of daily,weekly, monthly and yearly lack of apreciation grieves our heavenly father.

Reasons abound why we should  be women who are thankful and they are;

  1. LIFE: We are always one heart beat away from death. The fact that we are alive in these volatile days is reason enough to be thankful. I live in Abuja and trust me this is no mean fete!
  2. THE BIBLE: Whether the world is black or white the word of God stands sure. Whatever the situation, the word in the bible is a refuge for the mind and heart. Imagine what the world would have been without the bible. We should be thankful to God for His blessed word  that, “liveth and abideth for ever” (1Peter 1 v23 -25)
  3. SALVATION: My sistas see no matter what a failure we have made of our lives, we can turn in faith to Christ and find salvation. Salvation is free and it is for everyone on earth. It does not depend on how rich or poor you are. So my sisters let us be thankful that the “grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men” (Titus 2 v 11 -13)
  4. BLESSING: My sisters do you know that the poorest among us enjoy some good things – health, friends, some food, some clothes, sunshine, children etc. We need to daily emphasize these blessings more. You see with God’s blessings we are rich even when we are poor financially that’s why Proverbs 10 v 22 says that the blessings of the Lord maketh rich.
  5. TRAILS: It is hard to be thankful during trials but by faith we may know God loves us and then we can rejoice during tribulation. Paul said and not so but we glory in tribulations also. Knowing that tribulation worketh patience and patience, experience and experience, hope and hope maketh not ashamed because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us. (Romans 5 v 3 – 5)
  6. FREEDOM: For having a land of liberty, we should thank God every day. Do you know the kind of violence that is being experienced in other countries? Everytime i watch the likes of countries such as Syrian, Iraq etc on CNN, ALJAZEERAH etc, I do not have any other option except to thank this great God for His mercies.
  7. THE BLESSED HOPE: Soon all these darkness, evil, bloodshed will be over, Why? Because we have hope that Christ is coming again. Philipians 4 v 4 – 6 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always and again again I say rejoice. Let your moderation be known unto allmen. The Lord is at hand. Be careful for nothing but in everything in prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be know to God.

Teaching Our Kids Responsibilities

Parenting is hard work! There are so many aspects to it, everything from discipline to helping our children make good food choices to winning their hearts! We also want to make sure we are teaching our children responsibility. We are living in a culture where more and more grown children are living at home and can’t seem to be able to move on with their own lives. God has given us the task of parenting and although we will always be our children’s parents we also want to equip our children for real life living! They are meant to go out and make lives of their own and we want them to be ready for that!

Chores can really help us in this area. I hear many moms say, “it is just easier to do it myself” or “it is not worth the complaining I will have to hear”, trust me- I HEAR you!! It is often not easy but we do our children no favors if we continue down this path because in the long run it will hurt them!

Our children can learn basic clean up rules at a very young age. I recently had a friend’s one year old son over and he was helping me pick up things, pulling his little legs to do small small chores for, I was very impressed!. Actually they usually love doing it at this age so it is the perfect time to start. Setting that precedent early helps you a great deal when they are older.

I read a lot of things about  families doing things to connect on a deeper level. Working and doing chores as a family is a wonderful way to do this! As a mother or even as a parent you may hear complaints at first but if you make chores part of the family activities irrespective of the complaints you will all work as a family. And once the chores are consistent they will adjust and great conversations can happen when you are say cooking in the kitchen together or cleaning out the kitchen! Reward yourselves after the big jobs and go out for a treat. You are teaching your children the value of hard work and they will feel pride in a job well done!

Here are some lists to get you started:

Younger children can:

Put Toys Away

Feed and water the house pets

Wipe Down Table Tops

Dust (get a duster that they will love)

Water Plants

Set the Table

Throw Trash Away

Sort Laundry (great lesson on learning colors)

As they get older they can do:

Meal Preparation – They can wash off veggies and fruit/ help you stir (If you are there of course), and get ingredients together.

Make their beds

Sweep Floors

Vacuum Floors

Collect Garbage

Rake Leaves

Pick up their Rooms

Help with Care of Baby (like making bottles and getting diapers)

Help Clean up the Yard

By the time our children become teens we want them to be able to:

Do their laundry

Cook some meals

Mow the lawn

Do basic car maintenance (like checking the oil and tires)

This is helping them be ready to go away to college, go for youth service or for when they get their first apartment or home! They will be grateful they know these tasks and often you will find more mature young people who save money and get good jobs at a younger age because of their knowledge in this area!

Remember when you are teaching your children, it won’t be perfect.

But you know what?

It absolutely important that we taught our children about their future and prepare them for life than to have the perfect made bed or swept kitchen! We are raising soon to be adults and we need  to prepare them!

Shalom

Let Our Children Be.

Research of every kind has shown that media, constantly being indoors, over entertainment, trying to manage children into little adults, too much exposure to sexual material and immoral values at an early age, is destroying the soul of children. They are being pulled,  pushed  and dragged from one place to another, endless activities, lessons that are supposedly “good” for them, and forced to fit into time boxes convenient to adults. This stress is wreaking havoc and creating terrible results on a generation of children who are growing up with emotional adult illnesses at early ages, lower vocabulary, more depression, vastly growing obesity as a childhood disease and so much more. Premature addiction to sexual images and news stories and acting out  adult values is damaging to their souls. Innocence and purity of mind  is healthy to becoming healthy adults.

Our children are starving for real life and drowning in the midst of an empty one.

But the old fashioned way of raising children seems to be the healthiest way  to raise emotionally, intellectually, physically resilient children. Children are natural imitators and so we must fill their lives and minds with worthy people, ideas  and heroes to pretend and to imitate – to practice what they will be when they grow up.

May they not grow up to imitate addiction to computer. May they not learn and display passivity from adults ignoring their needs while paying too much attention to facebook, twitter, blogs, cell phones. May they not copy the habit of observing parents dwelling hour after hour in front of interpersonal machines! while neglecting to honor and invest in real time relationships.

Children need protection and nurturing. Their brains are being robbed of intellectual exercise because they are not doing the things that children have done through out history. Children need a lot of time to have alone-time- imagination-to synthesize all that they are learning and thinking about in their worlds. Children need to read, to be read to and to have their brains filled with moral strength, values and stories that inspire!

When our children are constantly entertained by media, their brains actually become retarded – clinically slowed down, because  they are overstimulated  and their undeveloped eyes and brain capacity cannot deal with all of the visual stimulation, so that the brain actually shuts down in areas. Because they are deprived of what their bodies are designed to have- rest, play, imagination, curiosity, interaction with real people and real experiences, problems to solve, there is a diminishing of long term emotional, spiritual and mental health. Unfortunately, most children are not free to exercise life choices in the oxygen of creative play and have forgotten how to exist without constant entertainment, which prohibits intellectual growth.

Children need to be outdoors (including mine). They need time to be bored so that they will have to figure out how to occupy their time creatively. Innocence and purity of mind is healthy to becoming healthy adults.

They need to be around books and have lots and lots of imaginative stories read to them and then have them pretend the stories. They need lots of time with adults most preferably their parents not aunts, uncles and nannies so that they can pattern their values, manner and relationships after mature people rather than always being in the company of  immature children and media images which display violence, foolishness and questionable values.

Children will reflect naturally what their environment has produced. If one wants excellence and creativity, it comes out of a life well planned and ordered-  intentional living out what is real, acceptable, true and good. It does not come out of media or constant external entertainment or happen- chance where children becomes morally addicted to cultural values as displayed on the internet, television and the movies.

May our children be blessed with the gift of play, imagination, free time and the space to be outdoors to explore (if the security of say my country Nigeria will allow it).May they wonder at the marvels of God’s creation. May they have the treasure of real human beings who hold their hands while exploring the world, or who rock them to sleep and sing them real songs or scratch their backs at bedtime and tell them their own love stories. And may they daily hear the words of their creator God and marvel at His excellence and grow to love Him with all their heart.