ALWAYSISTERS BIBLE GROUP

I am absolutely petrified with what I am about to do.

As 2017 is gradually packing up, I am absolutely afraid!! You see when you make a promise to man it is very easy for you to renegade on that promise but when you make a promise to GOD – that is a different ball game.

You see for years!!!! I always made a promise to God that;
I will start from Genesis and read my bible all through to Revelations. Yeah right!! Who hasn’t made that resolution? But I don’t know why I have not been able to get away with this promise for at least the past 2-3 years. Each December since 2014 have seen me being verrry afraid because I knew that a new year which I was expected to fulfill my promise was close by. Late last year was really bad but I hid behind the fact that I had my thesis to conclude. Got away with that!!
From 20th December this year I v been hearing in my spirit the same reminder. I woke up this morning with a vague recollection that both Genesis and Revelation were in dream ( the really frightening thing was that these two books of the bible became human and we were chatting)

So here am I saying yes Lord. Do you feel like I do? Are you a woman and you want to take on this journey with me? I must warn I am not a good bible scholar but if you want to take up this journey know that we will do our best to achieve this together. If you are led then call, send me a text message or even whatsapp me on 07037670521 so that I can add u up to the group.

Joshua 1 v 8, Do not let this Book ( Bible) of the Law depart from your mouth; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.

How do we become prosperous and successful in 2018 and beyond if we don’t come close to the owner of the earth?

This takes me to another area that I struggle with and that is waking up in the midnight to pray. I can watch movies for Africa!!! And I can give a million reasons why I should sleep after watching the movie. I v never been consistent with praying, I also know that quite a lot of women have this challenge. So my dear friends if you want to up your game spiritually, I mean taking your spiritual life in your hands, then chat me up, text me, whatsapp me on 07037670521.

PLEASE THIS IS ONLY FOR WOMEN, AND I AM SURE YOU KNOW WHY.

WARNING!!!!
I AM TERRIFIED BUT I KNOW THAT GOD WHO HAS BEEN PROMPTING ME KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING. (IMAGINE ME??)

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Divine Appiontments

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Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day will bring forth (Prov. 27v1  NIV)

2017 is about to end. We started this year with so many lofty ideas. We prepared spiritually for 2017, we fasted, we spoke the word(appropriated the word sef) to ensure that we ran with the vision of this year. Some of us through the help of God actually realized our dreams , visions and missions in 2017 however as the year is winding up we should strategise on how our 2018 is going to be. One of the ways to do that is understanding the place of divine appointments.

No matter how we plan and prepare for the coming year, each day to the end of this year and even into the coming year brings its own unexpected encounters. No matter how predictable and mundane your life may feel, surprises always wait around the corner. These are called divine appointments. A divine appointment may be wonderful contact with a long -lost friend (primary, secondary or even university classmate), it could be a chance meeting in the elevator, it could be an unexpected emergency that takes you to a hospital waiting room. Chances abound or the way God will divinely order your steps. You have to be alert in the spirit and expectant!!!Sometimes, it may just be that that you reaches a long desired goal or that situations made it impossible that you had toput aside a cherished goal. You see my sista, there will always be many detours, good and bad situations  that will be scattered along your path

Sometimes again divine encounters can be dramatic and surprising. When an angel came to Mary she was afraid but she said yes to God. Jesus confronted Paul on the road to Damascus, and Paul’s entire life changed with that encounter. Philip met the Ethiopian eunuch on the road and ended up explaining the Scriptures to him and baptizing him. But not all divine appointments take place in unusual circumstances. God often brings people together in the course of their daily activities. Paul met Lydia when he went down to the river to where a regular prayer meeting was being held. Peter and John were on their way and healed a man crippled from birth. A casual encounter can have a life changing effects when God is at work through His people.

Keep in mind that though you may be unable to change a situation, you however still have control over how you will respond. When your plans are interrupted, my sista , take a deep breath (I do that a lot nowadays) and give yourself time to think before you react. Realize that each encounter is a divine appointment, each problem another opportunity for God to show you His faithfulness. When a difficult situation arises, will you choose to rest in Him? When a desired outcome is delayed, are you willing to listen for the lesson in the detour? Are you willing to receive the unexpected gifts a day brings and be open to divine appointments?

On a last note sistas,ec2dcedd68e9d90651502f4a659b237f

Everyday I learn that whatever comes my way is divinely orchestrated. So let end the year and start a new year gearing up to do exploit round about.

Encourage. Empower. Conquer

Shalom!!!

How To Love Yourself

Loving who you areLoving yourself is an important part of enjoying and getting the most out of your life. It is crucial for getting and maintaining satisfying relationships with others. Babe loving yourself is mainly having self respect, which is the only dependable way to create love in your own life. To be able to be loved, you must love and respect yourself. Do not allow anybody tell you how your life should be. I am at that point in my life where I  do not have patients for rubbish. I do not allow people to tolerate me, for what kwanu? If you think the sun shine from you and the moon sets with you nne I will shift kiakia from you. Who has time for drama? See sistas create your own activity!!!

Mandy Hale said and I quote,’ If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be chasing people who don’t love you either’. Trust me sis you don wanna find yourself in this situation cos you will be messed royally. You see all these people you are chasing to validate yourself? They have little little demons that they are fighting with, in my own language I will say they have their own “skoyi skoyi”

There is a story trending this week on instagram. American plus sized yoga instructor, Jessamyn Stanley is a woman confident about herself and about her body. She never shies away from sharing photos of herself practising her act via any social media platform. She said recently in one of her interviews that the world we live in makes it difficult to be confident in yourself( tell me about it). She said that social media is good but just like every other media determines what is accepted, believed, emulated, liked, loved, glamorous etc(Gbamsolutely!!!). As a plus sized woman, she said that her confidence and self love is always evolving. She said that self hate doesn’t go away that it takes work!(Babe talk on oo!)

Jessamyn said that she makes it a point of duty to constantly go back to her drawing table to wipe away yesterday actions and try to release both the good and bad emotions. She advised that one should try to be compassionate towards herself, try to show yourself love instead of hate. Decide that against all odd that you must survive.

I am going to put down a checklist of sort to help us. Some I have been practicing, some I read up as I was looking up materials for this post and they are;

  1. Stop trying to be perfect because nobody is!!!
  2. Stop comparing yourself to others. Babe so you no know say you dey unique ekwa? Na wa to you oo!!!
  3. Be who you really are. Nbok trying to be another person is hard work o.
  4. Try to look past ‘material’ objects and feelings. In this reception(recession) cut your coat according to your wrapper. Figure out what you really want. If looking for that position, power, religion, or motive is time wasting, energy sapping, financial consuming please do jump and pass and move on to something less stressful biko.
  5. Take things one day at a time.
  6. Learn to let go of past events.
  7. Forgive yourself a lot ooooo.
  8. Define yourself by your effort not your accomplishment (hmmmm!!!)
  9. Sit in front of the mirror productively( sounds oyiboish) You have to learn howto do this according to experts. Validate yourself when you sit in front of the mirror. Encourage yourself always.
  10. Nurture yourself. Here I need to expartiate a little. Self care is very important. Set up time to be by yourself . You can nurture yourself physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.
  11. Treat yourself like you will treat your best friend.
  12. express yourself. Find out what hobbies you enjoy and use it to express yourself.
  13. Practice saying ‘no’. My sista it is very ok to say no to people when you do not feel like doing something. Do not feel guilty about it. Just realize that you have the right to do so.

However I must warn that as you are loving yourself and doing all that I have suggested that you:

  1. Your problems give you opportunities to develop skills, abilities and your character.
  2. Loving your self does not mean grabbing all of the attention and becoming selfish.
  3. Trust who you are and decide the answers for you. Do not alter yourself because of the things people say.
  4. Trust your own judgement. Everything suggested, while it may work for the person who added it, might not work for you. Learn to trust yourself as that is a big part of self love.
  5. Loving oneself is not the same as narcissism, which is negative and a huge turn-off to others as it involves placing oneself above others.
  6. Misery loves company, so do not hang around unhappy, frowning and grouchy people.

Then what god will be able to rescue you from my hand?

This question was taken from Daniel chapter 3 verse 15d. The past couple of days for me has really been hellish. Sleep for me now is a very expensive commodity. In short the Lord has been dealing with me in certain areas of my life that I have held on to. He God allowed people once gain to deal with me. This dealing of course included betrayal of trust. It included people who asked me indirectly or even directly the question that King Nebuchadnezzar asked the trio of Shedrach, Meshach and Abednegoin the above named chapter.

You see in Daniel Chapter 3, King Nebuchadnezzar whom I will call ‘King Nebu’ here made a gigantic image of gold that was of an epic proportion and placed it in the province of Babylon and issued a decree that as soon as everyone which included government officials heard the sound of flute, horn, lyre, harp and other musical equipment that everyone was to fall down and worship King Nebu’s gold image and that punishment for not doing so was to be thrown into a blazing furnace.

Some amebo people in the employ of King Nebu just like Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego were went and told King Nebu that these guys were not following orders. King Nebu in anger sent these young  men to the blazing furnace which he gave instructions that it should be heated seven times hotter than the usual. I want to tell us that King Nebu asked these young men to bow to his image after the sound of the musical instrument and that if they refused, ‘He king Nebu will see the god that will be able to rescue them from his hands’

My sisters how many times have we played god to our fellow human beings? Because we see or perceive that we have an edge or power over someone we want to lord it over that person. We even get to the point of micro managing the person. It is worst when you have this feeling that what ever you have the edge over the other person is very important to that person, so you tighten the noose. Like I said, the Lord allowed people to deal decisively with me the past few days because i realized that I played a tin god over someone that really needed my help. I denied that help because I felt I was more superior like King Nebu and in my mind I said, ‘let me see who will help you with this…..’. Aaah! God who loved me so much sent someone else to do it to me big time and this person or even persons were people I trusted to finish. My sleep went! My peace went!! My joy went!!!

I complained to God, whined, sulked just name it until because this my God is a merciful God who said that He will have mercy unto whom He will have mercy told me where my problem came from. I will make amends because I was told that if I did not He God will allow things like that to continue. Now my sistas who is that person that borrowed money from you to do a business and because she borrowed money from you her joy and peace went with that? If you people are together in a gathering you will talk down on her and generally make people to understand that you did something important in her life. Who is that sista you introduced to a business because she confided in you about the challenges she was going through. You did the introduction but you started micro managing her, seeing her as if she wanted to take your shine because she seemed to have  grasped the business faster than you thought so you antagonize her and do all sorts of things to her because it was you that showed her the way. Are you that sista that will lend money and charge exorbitant interest to your fellow sista because you think that there is nothing that she can do. You can also see these in churches and fellowships. The woman who is in charge feels that she can take away positions and give or nominate this sista to this or that committee because of the small position she is occupying. She can hire and fire and she will be hiding behind spirituality as she is bringing one down and taking one up. Depending on how she feels per time that determines how she behaves to her fellow sistas. At the back of her mind she is saying let me see who will help you get out of this. Queen Nebu!!!!

There is this particular chorus that has been going round and round in my head lately it goes thus;

You are the Lord that is your name, you will never share glory with any man, you will never share your glory with anybody, Almighty God that is your name!

God is God and He will never allow what He created to start acting like Him. My sista did you know that for this particular time God gave you a certain wisdom to help your fellow women? Did you consider that that information you gave to a fellow sista was God instructed? Did you……? Did you……? I am also asking myself the same questions. My sistas times are hard in Nigeria and trust me people are going through so much. Lets try to be kinder people for goodness sake and you see this behavior is worst amongst those people who claim to be believers. A 35 year old doctor committed suicide recently in Lagos, south west Nigeria. There were so many reasons that surfaced after his death of which one was that he  was a sickler and hence suffered from occasional seizures. No one knew how he had been taunted in the past. How he had been deprived from doing so many things because of his peculiar challenges. I read that an exam he had been preparing for a long time was denied him because they felt he could not handle the attendant stress associated with the specialization. Like I said so many reasons came out after the poor man had died.

One thing I came out with these past days was that I am loved to have been chastised by my heavenly Father. It could have been worst. I see myself indeed priviledged to have recieved an answer to why all those things were happening at the same time. What if I didn’t have a relationship with my God how would I know? Sistas alot of closed windows and doors we might be experiencing now might just be because of our past behavior to our fellow human being. Repent of your ways and it will be well with you and I.

I have been off the blogging radar for a while. It will really be nice if you can drop a comment or two. You can reach me using these twitter handles @ursistalways and @alwaysister. Or you can reach me on facebook with the name Chikadibia Kate Obiechina. My instragram handles also are @ursistalways and @alwaysissy. Godbless

Shalom!

 

 

Facilitators Indeed

Recently I heard something that shook me to the very core of my being. You see we had a programme in SISTERS’ FELLOWSHIP INTERNATIONAL ABUJA AREA. This programme was held at the National Christian Center or as some know it  Ecumenical Center. MY goodness!!!!!!!!. I came out from that programme somewhat drained because I heard things that impacted me so much. By the way the theme of this programme was , ‘THE POWER OF REVELATION’. It was a five day programme. The first day the founder of SFI did the introduction which was to tell us all about revelation. Mrs. Nches Iredu said that if we had revelations we will not  as much as behave the way we do when we are faced with some situations. Ignorance according to her is a delayer and a reducer. She said that it is simply a lack of knowledge, understanding , awareness or education thats why we behave the way we do. I will leave this topic for another day. The second day Mummy Nches as she is fondly called by memebers of SFI spoke to us about FACILITATORS. Siestas na here my tory makpus.

Revelation opens one’s eyes and understanding and makes one’s reasoning different. A woman of understanding according to the founder does not strive, fight or retaliate because the word of God in Romans 8 v 28 applies to her. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, them who are the called according to (his) purpose”. Rev. Nches Iredu told us that some of the enemies we have seen in lives where really needed. The evil they meant for us sistas if we were patient we would have seen something good comng out that situation. Sistas oooo the people we call or called our enemies where in actual fact our FACILITATORS. When we go for church programmes or fellowship and prayer points are raised for our enemies, chei!!!!!! come and see women praying and jumping up and down that their enemies should fall down and die. But sistas? have you forgotten what Psalm 23 v 5 said, You (Lord) prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies, You anniont my head with oil, my cup runs over”  These (enemies) facilitators are suppossed to be alive so that they will watch you enjoy all that God has for you which sometimes their threats, misdeed or wickedness spurs you to achieve

Lets look at a story in the bible where an enemy (facilitator) helped take a fellow woman like you and I to her blessings. Please turn your bible to 1 Samuel 1 v 1 – 28. My bible tells me that Oga Elkanah married Aunty Hannah o, Kasalla come burst as  Aunty Hannah was barren but her co wife Aunty Penninah (the facilitator in this story) had many children. Oga Elkanah loved Hannah and my babe was contended with her boo’s love. Any time Oga Elkanah goes to abattoir our babe Aunty Hannah will always receive worthy bounteous portion and whenever Oga too sacrified at Shiloh our babe go get plenty meat.  Aunty Hannah needed a baby o but she was very okay with that her barren status. It was not until God used Aunty Penninah that her network returned. I am sure that Hannah must have sent Peninah’s daughter on an errand one day and Peninah provoked (after all she that was the baby making factory was not getting meat and other things) like Hannah from Elkannah and how else was Peninah going to give it to Hannah if it is not to say, “come Dorcas do not go anywhere, let Madam born her own jor and send her child” Can we imagine in so many ways Peninah must have tormented Hannah. Afterall she has been chopping all that meat. Penninah insulted and provoked Hannah terribly. It was this deep provocation that spurred Hannah into action. She was facilitated by our dear Penninah. Hannah out of desperation refused to eat even the ‘worthy portion’. She went to the temple all alone and groaned and entreated  the Lord to bless her with a son. She just wanted to have a son and never even dared to keep him for herself. She wanted to give birth just to prove to the world that she can carry a child in her womb. She went to the extent to even vowing that she would give back the child to God if He God gives her  CHILD. Again she just wanted to prove to the world that she could carry a child in her womb!!!! If Penninah did not keep Hannah uncomfortable she Hannah would not have sought God in desperation to interceed on her behalf.

Let us look at another story in the bible where a facilitator used by God moved a person to do exploit. Genesis 37 v 5 – 11. Joseph was greatly loved by his father Jacob. He was the son of his father old age.. Though second to the last born, he had dreams of greatness. He had the first dream and told his brothers. There was a second dream all indicating that he was going somewhere without his brothers. The brothers were angry with him because of these dreams and they conspired to kill him but later sold him to a band of Ishmaelites traders for twenty pieces of silver. He was bought by Potiphar and in Potiphar’s house the wife started making eyes at Joseph to the extent that she wanted him to sleep with her. When that did not work she said Joseph wanted to rape her. Finally Bros Joe landed in the prison for what he did not do! What seemingly hopeless situations! Everything seemed to be working against our Bros Joe but unknown to him his challenges and enemies were acting as facilitators who were propelling him to his dream.

My sistas people come into our lives and thoroughly mess us up. We are betrayed, gossipped about, humiliated, ignored, not appreciated, looked down at, just name it but if you are a descerning person you will know that all those times you passed through all those things that it made you to take very desperate decisions that eventually led to your glory and God’s glory. Some situations we pass through are stepping stones to our destiny. Do not stay in that bad or ugly situation or acquire enemies left right and center. See them as people that you will surmount be all means. People sent to take you to your permanent site according to Wazobia Fm. Landlords have pursued tenants for no just reasons and in the midst of all that hopelessness you were able to build your own house. An Uncle or Aunt did pay your school fees but in desperation you decided to learn a trade that is bringing much more than you ever thought. These people facilitated you so they should be given award. I hope you are getting the idea.

Shalom

Ursistalways