This question was taken from Daniel chapter 3 verse 15d. The past couple of days for me has really been hellish. Sleep for me now is a very expensive commodity. In short the Lord has been dealing with me in certain areas of my life that I have held on to. He God allowed people once gain to deal with me. This dealing of course included betrayal of trust. It included people who asked me indirectly or even directly the question that King Nebuchadnezzar asked the trio of Shedrach, Meshach and Abednegoin the above named chapter.
You see in Daniel Chapter 3, King Nebuchadnezzar whom I will call ‘King Nebu’ here made a gigantic image of gold that was of an epic proportion and placed it in the province of Babylon and issued a decree that as soon as everyone which included government officials heard the sound of flute, horn, lyre, harp and other musical equipment that everyone was to fall down and worship King Nebu’s gold image and that punishment for not doing so was to be thrown into a blazing furnace.
Some amebo people in the employ of King Nebu just like Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego were went and told King Nebu that these guys were not following orders. King Nebu in anger sent these young men to the blazing furnace which he gave instructions that it should be heated seven times hotter than the usual. I want to tell us that King Nebu asked these young men to bow to his image after the sound of the musical instrument and that if they refused, ‘He king Nebu will see the god that will be able to rescue them from his hands’
My sisters how many times have we played god to our fellow human beings? Because we see or perceive that we have an edge or power over someone we want to lord it over that person. We even get to the point of micro managing the person. It is worst when you have this feeling that what ever you have the edge over the other person is very important to that person, so you tighten the noose. Like I said, the Lord allowed people to deal decisively with me the past few days because i realized that I played a tin god over someone that really needed my help. I denied that help because I felt I was more superior like King Nebu and in my mind I said, ‘let me see who will help you with this…..’. Aaah! God who loved me so much sent someone else to do it to me big time and this person or even persons were people I trusted to finish. My sleep went! My peace went!! My joy went!!!
I complained to God, whined, sulked just name it until because this my God is a merciful God who said that He will have mercy unto whom He will have mercy told me where my problem came from. I will make amends because I was told that if I did not He God will allow things like that to continue. Now my sistas who is that person that borrowed money from you to do a business and because she borrowed money from you her joy and peace went with that? If you people are together in a gathering you will talk down on her and generally make people to understand that you did something important in her life. Who is that sista you introduced to a business because she confided in you about the challenges she was going through. You did the introduction but you started micro managing her, seeing her as if she wanted to take your shine because she seemed to have grasped the business faster than you thought so you antagonize her and do all sorts of things to her because it was you that showed her the way. Are you that sista that will lend money and charge exorbitant interest to your fellow sista because you think that there is nothing that she can do. You can also see these in churches and fellowships. The woman who is in charge feels that she can take away positions and give or nominate this sista to this or that committee because of the small position she is occupying. She can hire and fire and she will be hiding behind spirituality as she is bringing one down and taking one up. Depending on how she feels per time that determines how she behaves to her fellow sistas. At the back of her mind she is saying let me see who will help you get out of this. Queen Nebu!!!!
There is this particular chorus that has been going round and round in my head lately it goes thus;
You are the Lord that is your name, you will never share glory with any man, you will never share your glory with anybody, Almighty God that is your name!
God is God and He will never allow what He created to start acting like Him. My sista did you know that for this particular time God gave you a certain wisdom to help your fellow women? Did you consider that that information you gave to a fellow sista was God instructed? Did you……? Did you……? I am also asking myself the same questions. My sistas times are hard in Nigeria and trust me people are going through so much. Lets try to be kinder people for goodness sake and you see this behavior is worst amongst those people who claim to be believers. A 35 year old doctor committed suicide recently in Lagos, south west Nigeria. There were so many reasons that surfaced after his death of which one was that he was a sickler and hence suffered from occasional seizures. No one knew how he had been taunted in the past. How he had been deprived from doing so many things because of his peculiar challenges. I read that an exam he had been preparing for a long time was denied him because they felt he could not handle the attendant stress associated with the specialization. Like I said so many reasons came out after the poor man had died.
One thing I came out with these past days was that I am loved to have been chastised by my heavenly Father. It could have been worst. I see myself indeed priviledged to have recieved an answer to why all those things were happening at the same time. What if I didn’t have a relationship with my God how would I know? Sistas alot of closed windows and doors we might be experiencing now might just be because of our past behavior to our fellow human being. Repent of your ways and it will be well with you and I.
I have been off the blogging radar for a while. It will really be nice if you can drop a comment or two. You can reach me using these twitter handles @ursistalways and @alwaysister. Or you can reach me on facebook with the name Chikadibia Kate Obiechina. My instragram handles also are @ursistalways and @alwaysissy. Godbless
Recently I heard something that shook me to the very core of my being. You see we had a programme in SISTERS’ FELLOWSHIP INTERNATIONAL ABUJA AREA. This programme was held at the National Christian Center or as some know it Ecumenical Center. MY goodness!!!!!!!!. I came out from that programme somewhat drained because I heard things that impacted me so much. By the way the theme of this programme was , ‘THE POWER OF REVELATION’. It was a five day programme. The first day the founder of SFI did the introduction which was to tell us all about revelation. Mrs. Nches Iredu said that if we had revelations we will not as much as behave the way we do when we are faced with some situations. Ignorance according to her is a delayer and a reducer. She said that it is simply a lack of knowledge, understanding , awareness or education thats why we behave the way we do. I will leave this topic for another day. The second day Mummy Nches as she is fondly called by memebers of SFI spoke to us about FACILITATORS. Siestas na here my tory makpus.
Revelation opens one’s eyes and understanding and makes one’s reasoning different. A woman of understanding according to the founder does not strive, fight or retaliate because the word of God in Romans 8 v 28 applies to her. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, them who are the called according to (his) purpose”. Rev. Nches Iredu told us that some of the enemies we have seen in lives where really needed. The evil they meant for us sistas if we were patient we would have seen something good comng out that situation. Sistas oooo the people we call or called our enemies where in actual fact our FACILITATORS. When we go for church programmes or fellowship and prayer points are raised for our enemies, chei!!!!!! come and see women praying and jumping up and down that their enemies should fall down and die. But sistas? have you forgotten what Psalm 23 v 5 said, You (Lord) prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies, You anniont my head with oil, my cup runs over” These (enemies) facilitators are suppossed to be alive so that they will watch you enjoy all that God has for you which sometimes their threats, misdeed or wickedness spurs you to achieve
Lets look at a story in the bible where an enemy (facilitator) helped take a fellow woman like you and I to her blessings. Please turn your bible to 1 Samuel 1 v 1 – 28. My bible tells me that Oga Elkanah married Aunty Hannah o, Kasalla come burst as Aunty Hannah was barren but her co wife Aunty Penninah (the facilitator in this story) had many children. Oga Elkanah loved Hannah and my babe was contended with her boo’s love. Any time Oga Elkanah goes to abattoir our babe Aunty Hannah will always receive worthy bounteous portion and whenever Oga too sacrified at Shiloh our babe go get plenty meat. Aunty Hannah needed a baby o but she was very okay with that her barren status. It was not until God used Aunty Penninah that her network returned. I am sure that Hannah must have sent Peninah’s daughter on an errand one day and Peninah provoked (after all she that was the baby making factory was not getting meat and other things) like Hannah from Elkannah and how else was Peninah going to give it to Hannah if it is not to say, “come Dorcas do not go anywhere, let Madam born her own jor and send her child” Can we imagine in so many ways Peninah must have tormented Hannah. Afterall she has been chopping all that meat. Penninah insulted and provoked Hannah terribly. It was this deep provocation that spurred Hannah into action. She was facilitated by our dear Penninah. Hannah out of desperation refused to eat even the ‘worthy portion’. She went to the temple all alone and groaned and entreated the Lord to bless her with a son. She just wanted to have a son and never even dared to keep him for herself. She wanted to give birth just to prove to the world that she can carry a child in her womb. She went to the extent to even vowing that she would give back the child to God if He God gives her CHILD. Again she just wanted to prove to the world that she could carry a child in her womb!!!! If Penninah did not keep Hannah uncomfortable she Hannah would not have sought God in desperation to interceed on her behalf.
Let us look at another story in the bible where a facilitator used by God moved a person to do exploit. Genesis 37 v 5 – 11. Joseph was greatly loved by his father Jacob. He was the son of his father old age.. Though second to the last born, he had dreams of greatness. He had the first dream and told his brothers. There was a second dream all indicating that he was going somewhere without his brothers. The brothers were angry with him because of these dreams and they conspired to kill him but later sold him to a band of Ishmaelites traders for twenty pieces of silver. He was bought by Potiphar and in Potiphar’s house the wife started making eyes at Joseph to the extent that she wanted him to sleep with her. When that did not work she said Joseph wanted to rape her. Finally Bros Joe landed in the prison for what he did not do! What seemingly hopeless situations! Everything seemed to be working against our Bros Joe but unknown to him his challenges and enemies were acting as facilitators who were propelling him to his dream.
My sistas people come into our lives and thoroughly mess us up. We are betrayed, gossipped about, humiliated, ignored, not appreciated, looked down at, just name it but if you are a descerning person you will know that all those times you passed through all those things that it made you to take very desperate decisions that eventually led to your glory and God’s glory. Some situations we pass through are stepping stones to our destiny. Do not stay in that bad or ugly situation or acquire enemies left right and center. See them as people that you will surmount be all means. People sent to take you to your permanent site according to Wazobia Fm. Landlords have pursued tenants for no just reasons and in the midst of all that hopelessness you were able to build your own house. An Uncle or Aunt did pay your school fees but in desperation you decided to learn a trade that is bringing much more than you ever thought. These people facilitated you so they should be given award. I hope you are getting the idea.
The Merriam -Webster dictionary defined being thankful as one being conscious of benefits recieved. It also means one being happy for what one is about to recieve. It also defined it as being glad that something has happened or not happenedor that something or someone exist. You see I belong to a ministry called SISTERS’ FELLOWSHIP iNTERNATIONAL. This write up is not about the ministry noooo! But I can’t write on being thankful without mentioning SISTERS. This is an all women fellowship. The ministry taught me how to appreciate God and my fellow man. You see because the ministry is foundationed on love and appreciation we have different times within the year set aside for thanksgiving, these are January, June and December. We have been taught how to be appreciative even in bad times.There’s need for our lives to be one of thanksgiving, When I went online to research for this topic I was led to a site that showed me about seventy six quotations in the bible all talking about thanksgiving. Lets look at some of them.
- 1 Thessalonian 5v18
Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
- Psalm 107 v1
Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good, for His steadfast love endures for ever.
- Ephesians 5 v 20
Giving thanks always and for everything to God the father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ
- Colossians 3 v 15 -17
And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which i deed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and ministering one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
- Psalm 105 v1 – 2
Oh give thanks to the Lord! Call upon His name. Make known His deeds among the peoples! Sing to Him, sing psalms to Him. Talk of all His wondrous works!
- Psalm 106 v 1
Praise the Lord! Oh give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever
- Psalm 95 v 2 – 3
Oh come let us sing to the Lord! Let us shout joyfully to the Rock of our salvation. Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving.Let us shout joyfully to Him with psalms.
All these just show that we are constantly suppossed to live in an atmosphere of thanksgiving. Ungratefulness is one of the world’s worst sins. We enjoy the blessings of life, home, friends, health and freedom of so many things and we take all those things for granted. Saying thank you Lord is usually an after thought. This lack of daily,weekly, monthly and yearly lack of apreciation grieves our heavenly father.
Reasons abound why we should be women who are thankful and they are;
- LIFE: We are always one heart beat away from death. The fact that we are alive in these volatile days is reason enough to be thankful. I live in Abuja and trust me this is no mean fete!
- THE BIBLE: Whether the world is black or white the word of God stands sure. Whatever the situation, the word in the bible is a refuge for the mind and heart. Imagine what the world would have been without the bible. We should be thankful to God for His blessed word that, “liveth and abideth for ever” (1Peter 1 v23 -25)
- SALVATION: My sistas see no matter what a failure we have made of our lives, we can turn in faith to Christ and find salvation. Salvation is free and it is for everyone on earth. It does not depend on how rich or poor you are. So my sisters let us be thankful that the “grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men” (Titus 2 v 11 -13)
- BLESSING: My sisters do you know that the poorest among us enjoy some good things – health, friends, some food, some clothes, sunshine, children etc. We need to daily emphasize these blessings more. You see with God’s blessings we are rich even when we are poor financially that’s why Proverbs 10 v 22 says that the blessings of the Lord maketh rich.
- TRAILS: It is hard to be thankful during trials but by faith we may know God loves us and then we can rejoice during tribulation. Paul said and not so but we glory in tribulations also. Knowing that tribulation worketh patience and patience, experience and experience, hope and hope maketh not ashamed because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us. (Romans 5 v 3 – 5)
- FREEDOM: For having a land of liberty, we should thank God every day. Do you know the kind of violence that is being experienced in other countries? Everytime i watch the likes of countries such as Syrian, Iraq etc on CNN, ALJAZEERAH etc, I do not have any other option except to thank this great God for His mercies.
- THE BLESSED HOPE: Soon all these darkness, evil, bloodshed will be over, Why? Because we have hope that Christ is coming again. Philipians 4 v 4 – 6 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always and again again I say rejoice. Let your moderation be known unto allmen. The Lord is at hand. Be careful for nothing but in everything in prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your request be know to God.
“By the time our children become teens we want them to be responsible people”
Parenting is hard work! There are so many aspects to it, everything from discipline to helping our children make good food choices to winning their hearts! We also want to make sure we are teaching our children responsibility. We are living in a culture where more and more grown children are living at home and can’t seem to be able to move on with their own lives. God has given us the task of parenting and although we will always be our children’s parents we also want to equip our children for real life living! They are meant to go out and make lives of their own and we want them to be ready for that!
Chores can really help us in this area. I hear many moms say, “it is just easier to do it myself” or “it is not worth the complaining I will have to hear”, trust me- I HEAR you!! It is often not easy but we do our children no favors if we continue down this path because in the long run it will hurt them!
Our children can learn basic clean up rules at a very young age. I recently had a friend’s one year old son over and he was helping me pick up things, pulling his little legs to do small small chores for, I was very impressed!. Actually they usually love doing it at this age so it is the perfect time to start. Setting that precedent early helps you a great deal when they are older.
I read a lot of things about families doing things to connect on a deeper level. Working and doing chores as a family is a wonderful way to do this! As a mother or even as a parent you may hear complaints at first but if you make chores part of the family activities irrespective of the complaints you will all work as a family. And once the chores are consistent they will adjust and great conversations can happen when you are say cooking in the kitchen together or cleaning out the kitchen! Reward yourselves after the big jobs and go out for a treat. You are teaching your children the value of hard work and they will feel pride in a job well done!
Here are some lists to get you started:
Younger children can:
Put Toys Away
Feed and water the house pets
Wipe Down Table Tops
Dust (get a duster that they will love)
Set the Table
Throw Trash Away
Sort Laundry (great lesson on learning colors)
As they get older they can do:
Meal Preparation – They can wash off veggies and fruit/ help you stir (If you are there of course), and get ingredients together.
Make their beds
Pick up their Rooms
Help with Care of Baby (like making bottles and getting diapers)
Help Clean up the Yard
By the time our children become teens we want them to be able to:
Do their laundry
Cook some meals
Mow the lawn
Do basic car maintenance (like checking the oil and tires)
This is helping them be ready to go away to college, go for youth service or for when they get their first apartment or home! They will be grateful they know these tasks and often you will find more mature young people who save money and get good jobs at a younger age because of their knowledge in this area!
Remember when you are teaching your children, it won’t be perfect.
But you know what?
It absolutely important that we taught our children about their future and prepare them for life than to have the perfect made bed or swept kitchen! We are raising soon to be adults and we need to prepare them!
Happy new year everyone. I am sorry this blog seemed to have been quiet for a long time. I just want to let you know that I am back! The past few weeks have been spent seeking the face of the Lord concerning 2015. There are so many things the Lord is and has placed in my heart to do and I am want to get clarifications or confirmations that I am hearing well. Watch out as we get cracking. Happy new year once more. Shalom.